There are Three Phases to
life enhancing and successful
PowerThinking.

I. Understand the Three Presumptions

II. Own the Eight Spokes

III. Do the Five Steps

The samples of Coaching listed below focus solely on
The Third Phase of PowerThinking, which is emphasized in
Level One Coaching and Workshops:
Do the Five Steps.

Case # 1: "Life Amidst the Storm©"

A young girl has a bully for a brother.

Case # 2: "Life as a Rollercoaster©"

A client can't seem to get out of debt and stay out.

Case # 3: "Life on the Fault Line©"

Response to an abusive childhood is discovered to be the block to love, success, and harmony.

CASE # 1

Life Amidst the Storm©
A Girl and Her Brother

Issue: I can't get my brother to quit picking on me. Every chance he gets, he is doing or saying something that makes me feel bad about what I am doing or wearing or how I look. Can PowerThinking help, even if I am only 12 years old?

Response: Yes! Power Thinking can help anyone
who can understand the words and ideas, even at 12 years young.

1. Acceptance

Accept everything about the situation.
Accept that your brother does these inconsiderate and unkind things. Accept your disappointment, anger and all the other feelings and facts. Accept that you may feel like blaming him for all your troubles. Accept that you may be blaming your self, too, sometimes.

Write this out in your journal. Write what you are accepting . . . don't analyze it or relive it. Write the words to describe everything you remember and everything you feel.

Don't relive the experiences. Breathe deeply when you are done writing.

Acceptance means you only give it a name.

When you name something, that gives you the Power to let it go. It isn't hiding from you anymore. You have brought it out into the bright light.

You can't let it go if you don't know what it is.

If you are not letting go, you are hiding or ignoring, which is only going to take your Power away.

The final part of acceptance is the forgiveness triangle.
That means, first, that you forgive him for being the bully he is towards you. (This does NOT mean you are saying his behavior is OK).
Now you are going to stop blaming him ... and your self, for all the things that feel wrong in your life. Then you are no longer his (or your own) victim.

The next part of the forgiveness triangle is where you forgive yourself - for everytime you bought into his game of control over you. This means that you can no longer judge yourself from his eyes.
And lastly, you give him permission (inside you, not outside to him) to forgive you.

The forgiveness triangle finishes the Step of acceptance.

2. Intention

Now, look at all the things you wrote about in Step One. What kind of girl is that? What kind of girl lets herself get caught up in loosing her Power to a bully?

How does that girl feel?
Does she deserve to feel that way?

All these are important questions to answer so you can determine what is the kind of girl you were in those situations with your brother

GIRL: I guess I would say I was being a looser. I was feeling small and not worth much to anybody.

COACH: What is the opposite of that kind of girl ?

GIRL: Well, she would be confident and Power-ful.

COACH: OK! We'll say that is the NEW you!

Now you are going to intentionally BE that quality. Even if, at first, you have to pretend. You are going to give up the scared and insecure girl as payment for the new girl. From now on, especially when you are around your brother, this is who you ARE.

You will diligently use the Three Presumptions and The Eight Spokes, and your Coach to help you.

Now create an affirmation like this, and say it to yourself (out loud or inside or both) all the time:

I am confident. I am worthy.
I am Power-filled.

3. Choice

Choice means that you take responsibility for your response to your brother from now on.
It also means that you have the freedom (now that you have intentionally chosen a new quality to BE) to respond as the new you:
a girl who is confident, worthy and Power-filled.

Think, feel, believe, act and speak like a girl who is confident, worthy and Power-filled. If you ever get confused about what that means, use the Three Presumptions, The Eight Spokes and your coach to help you.

When you walk down the street, when you brush your hair, when you sit in school . . . BE the confident, worthy and Power-filled girl you truly ARE.

4. Honor

This is where you are the one who changes and has Power, and he TRIES to keep you the same. After all, who will play his game now? NOT you!

You honor your brother by not having to make HIM change. That is not your job in life. This is because he is the only one with the Power to change his own behavior and thinking, anyway.

You honor your choice to BE the new you and your self by staying committed to the quality of BEING a girl who is confident, worthy and Power-filled.

More importantly, you honor your self by not betraying your word to your self. No one promised easy or fair in life. But, now you can see that your experience of his behavior is truly based on your own thinking and feeling.

Use all your Power Thinking tools to help you, and ask for help whenever you need it.

5. Give

Now it is time for you to give the true you to your world.

Give the world the quality you now have claimed: A girl who is confident, worthy and Power-filled. Only you can express this as you, no one else in the whole world can express or BE this girl you are, except you.

You are special.

Remember how good you feel about your self when you give to others? This kind of giving does not require even a thank you. It is just giving for the joy you get from the giving. In this way, you are adding to your own happiness.

Now you learn to give that way to your own self, too.

This giving is an important part of how you can have the happiness and security you wish.

For instance, when someone talks with you, you can listen like a confident girl. If someone asks you to do something (that is, if it is not a bad or dangerous thing for you, in any way) then you can give the quality you ARE to the project of getting it done.

Maybe also giving means going to volunteer at the library and read to the children. Maybe it means being extra kind to someone who is being picked on at school.

When you are focused on your own happiness and security that comes out of giving to your self and others, this last step will be the most important in reclaiming your Power.

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Remember a PowerThinking response is never about demeaning you, making you feel depleted of energy, or putting you in danger.

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CASE # 2

Life as a Rollercoaster©
Always In Debt

Issue: There is always too much month at the end of my money. How can I use PowerThinking to get out of debt and stay out?
COACH: The good news is that PowerThinking has
helped other people out of this very predicament. However, you will need to make a commitment to your self and stick with it. Can you?
CLIENT: I am so tired of having a rollercoaster relationship with my finances! So, YES! I am committed.

1. Acceptance

This is where you get bare bones real with your self. Get a large piece of paper and write out all your debts. On another piece of paper write all your income. Include a spot for your savings, whether you have some yet or not.

Then just look at the information, and observe your feelings about money, the debt, your self and your life.

What you are doing now is honestly taking stock of your own feelings, thoughts and beliefs in this situation.

Now write in your journal. Write everything you feel about money in general, your debts, your self and your life.

PowerThinking is never about resisting. You get what you resist . . . and usually you get it bigger. Brutal honesty with your self, in this step, will save you from this result.

Recall the first time you ever felt like this about your self and your life. Maybe it was when you were ten years old and your neighbors teased you about not having nice clothes. Or maybe it was when you were in college and didn't have the money for books, so you had to check them out of the library.

Whatever you felt about your self and your life, write about it as if it were today. Find other times in your life between that first time and this time that pop into your memory. Write about those, too.

Report it all.
As if you were writing a report about someone else.

Keep it all in chronological order.

Don't relive. Just tell. Tell it ALL. And breathe deeply, knowing that you are in present time as you breathe.

Lastly, use the forgiveness triangle to complete the act of acceptance.
First, you forgive everyone who participated in the remembered experiences in your life. (Forgiving the other NEVER means condoning their behavior.)
Second, forgive your self for any of your participation that contributed to those past experiences resulting in these kinds of feelings about your self and your life.
Lastly, give everyone else permission to forgive you. Do this internally, as a thought or affirmation in your meditation or prayer.

Now acceptance is complete. You faced it. Embraced it.
Next, you will replace it.

2. Intention

In this step you intentionally select a quality. That quality of person you intentionally choose to BE will attract a different result in your life experience.

This new you will be Power-filled, which will transform your life. PowerThinking will sustain you in this transformation.

First, ask your self, what kind of person have you been. What kind of person treats him/her self like this?

CLIENT: Insecure, fearful.

COACH: OK. What is the opposite side of those qualities?

CLIENT: Secure and fearless.

COACH: Good. Let's go with that. The quality of BEing secure in your self and fearless of money.

Create a sentence that begins with "I am." For instance, you might create: I am Secure. I am Fearless.

The sentence is now your affirmation, your mantra. Constantly repeat it. Write it every chance you get. Refrain from saying, thinking, feeling, believing or doing anything that opposes it.

Know that this is where your commitment and the inspired discipline borne of are critically necessary tools.

Realize you are declaring your willingness to give up the old qualities (insecure and fearful) in order to gain the new ones. This is your answer to the key question in this step: "What are you willing to pay (give up) for the new you?"

This step is about intentionally selecting a new quality to bring you a new result in your life. The quality of the person you ARE attracts the result of your experience.

Use the Three Presumptions, The Eight Spokes and your Coach to help you keep your word to your self. If you do, you will BE a successful PowerThinker. And a wealthier person!

3. Choice

Now it is time to make your intentionally chosen quality real in your life. At every instance, choose to BE secure and fearless. Your beliefs, feelings, thoughts, actions and words can now be in alignment with your new you.

Use the Three Presumptions, the Eight Spokes and your Coach to help you own the transformation you seek. These will work - guaranteed - if you work with them fully.

In order to make a change in your life, you must see the situation and you in it, differently. PowerThinking is about getting a new vision of you.

There is no room for a new vision unless the old one is named (faced), embraced and replaced with the new one. This is what you have begun with this Step.

4. Honor

This means you honor your commitment to your self and use PowerThinking to change the old habit and feeling pattern.

Honor means that you listen to your community-of-life (body-mind-spirit). As you listen to your body, you will find emotions tucked in every corner, including parts of your body, like your back, stomach or throat.

Maybe those emotions have usually meant that you respond by spending money. Now, instead, you honor your self because you fearlessly and securely find a healthy, life enhancing, substitute activity. You also seek help if you need it.

It is time to honor money and your creditors, too. Money is only a piece of paper. We give it meaning by placing numbers on it and believing in these numbers. Your creditors give you their trust - that you will repay them. Trust is a very great honor.

Let your internal sense of security and fearlessness guide you in honoring your self, the value money has to you and the trust placed in you by your creditors.

If you doubt, use the tools of PowerThinking and act as if you believe, until you just know!

5. Give

It is time to give. Give the new you to your world. BE the quality you have intentionally chosen. As Gandhi said: BE the change you want to see in the world.

First, this means that you must give a secure and fearless person to your world. Everywhere you go, you can express this new you in your own special way. If you do not consciously give this kind of (new) person to your world, you will not be able to sustain the changes of PowerThinking.

Giving the new you is absolutely necessary. Giving must be without obligation, without measure for anything in return and without guilt or shame.

PowerThinking never means that you diminish or denigrate your self, however.

You can use the saying I use: Give where you get your good. Every month.This could be in money (even just a few dollars) and it could be in time.

If you are unsure about where you get your good, think about all the free books, tapes and CD's you can use anytime. Where is that you ask? Your local library.

Think about the fact that your environment supplies you with your food, air and water. Maybe giving to an environmental organization is giving to your good.

The operative verb, here, is actually give-receive. To receive the beauty and majesty of your new self, you must give it, wholly and without obligation or expectation of return.

The giving must be to someone or something that is life-enhancing and NEVER life-depleting.

Listen to your newly realized, Power-filled self and use the Three Presumptions and Eight Spokes liberally to sustain your transformation.

Enjoy your newfound Power and BE the real you, finally.

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CASE # 3

Life on the Fault Line©
An Abusive Childhood Holding Her Back

Issue: I experienced abuse as a child. After working with my therapist and reading some books, I have learned that the failed jobs and relationships in my life are directly related to the abuse.

I really want to get on with a successful life. How can PowerThinking free me from the fault/default cycle of failure?

COACH: Power Thinking is especially helpful for your situation. It is about a way of BEING that is designed to RE-emPower you. Your Power was stolen, and now this system can return it to you.

1. Accept

Acceptance is about getting perspective without analyzing,
commenting, blaming or judging. Take out your journal. Write out the facts of the abuse. Write out your feelings, thoughts and beliefs about you, the abuser and the abuse at that time. Don't hold back. Just write.

This is the time for brutal honesty and audacious courage.

If you have already done this in your therapy, do it again now. This time your sole purpose is to name the facts, feelings, beliefs and thoughts about the past, only.

It is best if you don't analyze or judge these feelings, facts, thoughts or beliefs. Don't relive the events, just report the whole story to your self, in your private journal.

This is about perspective, so once you have done the writing you can step back and look from now.

In order to let go of something, you must first face it. Entirely. That is the same as giving it a name.

Be kind to your self. Rely on radical trust.

Once you have done that, look at whatever major memories pop up as you ask your self 'When have I had that same feeling I have just written about? Was it when I went to college and a date got too rough with me? Was it when I married my first husband and he hit me? Or was it when my boss kept yelling and yelling at me, all the time?'

Write about each time in the same way you have written about the first incident. Chronologically draw a line through your life following these memories and their common emotional threads.

Just look. As best you can, don't relive. Breathe deeply and realize that your breath is exactly in the now.

To complete this Step, do the forgiveness triangle.
First, forgive each person who is in every memory.
Remember,forgiveness is not about them, it is about you. It is NEVER about sanctioning or condoning their behavior.It is about getting your Power back through releasing negative energy you have invested in someone in the past. You reclaim through this kind of forgivenenss and that energy can then be used to re-EmPower your present and future.

Second, forgive your self for any of your participation in either creating these feelings, or perpetuating them.

Third, give all of the people in the memories permission to forgive you. Do this internally, as a prayer or meditative statement, only.

If you feel unable to do the forgiveness triangle, use the tools of the First and Second Phase of PowerThinking, and your Coach to help you get past your barriers. This is the time for you to get free and become successful in life. Letting go through forgiveness is a necessary journey for re-EmPowerment.

Only you can decide to do it.

Then you are ready for Step Two.

2. Intention

Write in your journal all the qualities of person you were in the time of the abuse. For instance, you might have been angry, fearful, or maybe even guilty or shameful. Second, write out the qualities that are the opposite of those limiting and fear-based qualities. Compare the two lists.

Pick two qualities from the second list of opposites that feel the most true and real, to you and about you, today.

CLIENT: I used to feel angry and shameful. I feel like I am still always angry and ashamed of everything.

COACH: Those are valid feelings. What are the opposite qualities of those feelings? If those qualities of you were in the shadow, what part of you would be in the glorious, bright light?

CLIENT: The forgiving and confident part of me.

COACH: Excellent. Create an affirmative statement that begins with "I am" and ends with these qualities. Like, 'I am forgiving. I am confident.'

Realize you are declaring your willingness to give up the old qualities in order to gain the new ones. This is your answer to the key question in this step: "What are you willing to pay for the new you?"

This step is about intentionally selecting the quality you wish to BE in life. You have selected forgiving and confident. That is all that is involved in this Step ... intentionally selecting a quality you will now BE.

3. Choice

Every belief, thought, feeling, action and word must be in alignment with your newly selected quality. Use the Three Presumptions, Eight Spokes and your Coach to help you stay on course and find ways to implement this new you into your life. Remember that discipline and commitment are the backbone of success.

Remember you are a community-of-life (body-mind-spirit). This step is
about bringing the qualities of forgiveness and confidence into your entire community. Let these two qualities be your guide, and your best friends.

These qualities that are now incorporating into your life will attract a completely different experience of life to you. The quality of the person you ARE attracts the result of your experience.

Now you are BEING a forgiving and confident person, intentionally. To have a different experience, you must BE different.

The choice, the Power from and in choice, is in you.

4. Honor

This is a great word. Honor means that you honor your self. Honor the commitment you have made to your self. Use the other tools and toys of PowerThinking to sustain your evolution.

This also means that you honor other people's choices. Let those from your past have their own vision of themselves, you and the world.

PowerThinking is never about working to change some
one else. It is only about working on your own vision
and qualities.

It's like on the airplane, where the flight attendant
advises you to put the oxygen mask over your own nose
and mouth first. THEN help those around you. Simple
as that may sound, it is quite profound.

Honor your self by letting others remain the same or change, as they choose. Honor your self by keeping your word.

5. Give

PowerThinking Giving is about giving wherever or to whomever enhances or sustains your emPowerment.

This step is where you take the declaration of who you are into your world and give your world that new you in the healthiest and most life-enhancing way possible.

Give where you get your good.

For instance, one place you might want to give is to support others who are going through this process of letting go of an abusive past.

Whatever way your heart calls you to give that feeds your own Power, this is a great tool (or toy) to solidify the experience of your qualities into your own community-of-life while you bring them to your world.

The verb is really give-receive. As you embody your intended qualities of forgiveness and confidence, you receive a deepening experience of true Power that emerges from your inner or higher self.

Now is the time to use all the tools of PowerThinking, every day. The challenge to stay your intended course is real and can feel quite immense, at times. With each small success, however, you gain in determination and commitment.

Ultimately, what you receive is your own Power.

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